Listening to our kids can sometimes be difficult especially if their tone is grating and criticizing, but it’s so important. To know that you are really interested in their lives and concerns gives kids the support they need to help them deal with their lives confidently and happily.
Here are some helpful hints:
The whole idea of listening is getting to know your child and strengthening that parent-child bond at all ages and stages of development. If you begin having conversations when they are young, it’s easier when they have those spurts of independence when it seems they don’t want to say a word to you. Actually, undercover they still need your guidance and just need you to keep opening that door that says, “I love you and want to know what’s on your mind.”
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst with specialized clinical training in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy. She has been on the faculties of New York University and the Society for Psychoanalytic Study and Research, among others.
She has written extensively on parenting for various publications, including the Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, The International Journal of Infant Observation, The Inner World of the Mother, Newsday’s Parents & Children Magazine, Long Island Parent.
She also wrote her popular column, PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE, at Moms Magazine and has been a parenting expert for numerous publications such as Good Housekeeping.. She currently writes for Active Family Magazine (San Francisco) and blogs for Huffington Post.
Her new book is Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior.
Visit Dr. Laurie’s website: http://lauriehollmanphd.com/