Parties can be a fun way for your teen to get out of the house, have some crucial socialization, and blow off some steam; but how do you allow your child to do so without sitting up all night worrying about their health and safety? Here are a few tips for establishing house rules with your teen about the parties they attend.
Make them a Part of the Action
Have a frank and open discussion with your teen about your concerns regarding parties. What do you worry about for them? Is there something your teen can do to help alleviate them? Create your “house party rules” together with your teen. Allow them to have a say in reasonable curfew time, transportation etiquette, and what happens if they break the rules. Taking ownership over these rules will help your teen feel like their voice has meaning, and will give them impetus to uphold standards of behavior that they helped craft.
Sometimes, plans get ruined; people run late, traffic abounds, or sometimes emergencies get in the way of a good time. Ensure that you have a plan with your teen for what to do if something happens; should they text? Call? When? What is the best way for your teen to responsibly communicate that they have hit a bump in the road and are forced to deviate from their planned trajectory?
Have a “Sober Ride Home” Rider
Make certain your teen knows that, no matter the hour or circumstance, they can call you for a sober ride home. This will reinforce appropriate driving protocol for your teen, and also ensure that you both know they will be coming home safely.
What are a few house rules you have established with your teen about parties?