During and after the holidays parents find their kids’ sometimes unruly behavior burning them out even though they wish to be devoted and loving. Here are some tips to combat feeling worn out as a parent.
When kids are home for long stretches of time during the holidays, parents find themselves weary of trying to keep relationships positive. Puzzling behaviors, minor squabbles, rivalries for parents’ attention, and little time for oneself leads to loosening the strong positive parent-child/teen connections that we all strive for.
10 Helpful Hints to Keep Parent-Child Connections Strong
These steps are what I call using Parental Intelligence. For the weary parent, these tools and attitudes can reorient your approach to child rearing for a life time. Your child will become a complex thinker who doesn’t just act and expect a speedy reaction from you, but a child who knows that his parents want to understand him and make general living positive and growth-promoting.
Remember to ask yourself three questions when you are worn out or burnt out as a parent:
“Why do children do what they do?”
”What’s on their minds?”
“How can parents know their child’s inner world?”
Each question brings you closer to your child and builds your relationship.
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst with specialized clinical training in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy. She has been on the faculties of New York University and the Society for Psychoanalytic Study and Research, among others.
She has written extensively on parenting for various publications, including the Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, The International Journal of Infant Observation, The Inner World of the Mother, Newsday’s Parents & Children Magazine, Long Island Parent.
She also wrote her popular column, PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE, at Moms Magazine and has been a parenting expert for numerous publications such as Good Housekeeping.. She currently writes for Active Family Magazine (San Francisco) and blogs for Huffington Post.
Her new book is Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior.
Visit Dr. Laurie’s website: http://lauriehollmanphd.com/