Middle school kids have so much on their minds—friendships, grades, parents, first crushes, appearances and more. They come in all shapes and sizes, growing and developing at different rates. From one day to the next their voices change, their bodies shift and grow, and while some begin to look like striking teens others still have their baby fat.
How can we help them succeed?
Ten Ways to Help Middle School Kids Succeed
Adjusting to a New School
In fact, most of the time they forget that and we need to remind them often—“You’re fine the way you are!”
Have conversations with your kids about their teachers and you may be surprised the secrets that surface!
Remind your kids that middle school isn’t time to prepare for college. It’s time to have fun and enjoy these years. Getting good grades is important but not being perfect!
Remind your kids you want them to achieve, but trying hard is sufficient.
Adjusting to New Friends
Once again, the wisdom of telling your kids, “You’re fine just the way you are” can’t be said enough. They may protest that you don’t understand, but your words sink in and help a great deal.
Remind your kids that how they are on the inside is far more important than how they look on the outside!
Developing One’s Identity
Be closely attentive, however, to these mood changes so you can become aware if they are passing phases or cries for more professional help. Yes, kids hide out in their rooms, secure themselves behind their computer screens and smart phones, but when is it normal and when is it withdrawal?
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst with specialized clinical training in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy. She has been on the faculties of New York University and the Society for Psychoanalytic Study and Research, among others.
She has written extensively on parenting for various publications, including the Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, The International Journal of Infant Observation, The Inner World of the Mother, Newsday’s Parents & Children Magazine, Long Island Parent.
She also wrote her popular column, PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE, at Moms Magazine and has been a parenting expert for numerous publications such as Good Housekeeping.. She currently writes for Active Family Magazine (San Francisco) and blogs for Huffington Post.
Her new book is Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior.
Visit Dr. Laurie’s website: http://lauriehollmanphd.com/